I am a mother of 2 in my late 20s. I have a degree in paralegal studies and business management. Currently, I’m pursing a degree in law.
At least once a week I hear “How do you do it?” from my friends, colleagues and family.
This last year was one of the hardest, but most rewarding years I’ve ever had.
March 2017 – I found out I was pregnant. Parents know the 1st 3 months is the toughest.
August – Started a new semester with 3 classes. One I had to drive to Baltimore after work.
September – Relocated grandma to Montgomery County. At this time I am approaching my last trimester.
October – I planned and had my baby shower.
December – Bought a new car, completed finals, and had my baby.
January – Began buying a new home. Started another semester w/3 classes, baby only 3 weeks old.
February – Returned back to work, received a promotion.
March – Had surgery and closed on my home.
April – Baby started daycare.
This Month – I moved and completed finals.
I still was able to assist family and friends, with law issues, credit and resumes.
I stand in front of you with A’s and B’s.
So how do I do it? How do you make all this happen?
Strategic time management.
Short term sacrifices for my long term dream.
Internal will to succeed and not give up on my investment.
Dedication – reminding myself that these hurdles will soon be over and my classes would still be there.
Being extremely resourceful.
I was also very strategic when I asked others for help. The help I had was very limited, so I had to use it wisely.
Learning from my failures.
I’m going to tell you the same thing I tell them, you can do it too. If you’re dedicated and really want something, no one or anything will get in your way. I hope I inspired you. Keep your head up and do not give up. Thank you for listening.
Like any new experience, entering college can seem scary or challenging. I too remember graduating high school and anxiously awaiting the start of my first semester of college. However, like any new experience, it is only a matter of time before you adjust. I hope that I can share the insight I have gained from my experience as a college student. Below, I have curated a list of advice for new college students.
The “I can’t do it” Syndrome
The situation may vary, but you may/will at some point doubt yourself. When such insecurity sets in, look around you and remember that most likely everyone has or has had a similar dilemma. The feeling may not go away quickly, but knowing that the people around you are experiencing similar things will hopefully let you know that, like everyone else, you will get through it.
Put You First
Whether it is as big as selecting a major or as small as picking a topic for a writing assignment, college can charge at you with options that require careful decision making. It can be a terrifying feeling figuring out what decision is best for you, but the one thing I advise when you are faced with making decisions is making sure that whatever decision you make, you do it for you and not anyone else.
One Size Does Not Fit All
You have probably heard from others that the college course load can be heavy and you will have to dedicate x hours each day to succeed in your classes. Hearing these kinds of things may scare you away, but don’t let it. Everything is terrifying until you try it. Rest assured that when the situation asks for it, you will most likely deliver. If others can do it, why can’t you? That is not to say, however, that you should compare yourself to others. In fact, I advise the contrary. Don’t ever compete with others. What may be for one person, may not be for you. The same goes for school. One method of studying that has worked for one person may not work for you. Therefore, when I say, “if others can do it why can’t you,” I mean to say that you can succeed with any amount of course load as long as you figure out what method of studying, time management, etc. works best for you.
Don’t waste time (there is always time for the things you want to accomplish as long as you manage your time wisely).
Create a positive space – surround yourself with friends who are rooting for you.
Go after anything and everything you want.
Believe in yourself
Create time for yourself and celebrate all of your accomplishments, no matter how big or small.
Michael Abraha just finished his junior year at Mount St. Mary’s. He is majoring in political science. He would like to pursue a MBA in business management. He believes that best way to influence the world is to have wealth in the right hands.
Tiffany Dicks is currently a sophomore at Montgomery College. She is pursuing her Associates degree in graphic design. She is currently a freelance graphic designer.
Serena Spickler is a 2017 graduate of Watkins Mill High School. She will be attending the University of Maryland Baltimore County in the fall. She plans to pursue a Bachelor’s degree in biomedical engineering. She would like to combine her interest in math, science and design to create prosthetic limbs for people in need.
Moving is always a disruptive event even for adults. But for a young girl in school it can be especially traumatic. One day you’re in a comfortable place, in a familiar school with friends who know and like you; the next, everything’s different and you have to start over again. Definitely not something you want to do often. In Chevonne Mansfield’s young life, though, moves were all too common. In her elementary and middle school years alone, she moved five times to different locations on Long Island, attending multiple elementary and two middle schools. The way she overcame these disruptions and achieved academic and career success is a testimonial to her brains, strength, and the support of her family.
Chevonne was a child of teenage parents who separated when she was young. Nevertheless, her mother and grandmother continually impressed upon her the need to work hard in school and to get as much education as possible. She took this to heart and compiled an exemplary record in school. That, plus financial support for scholarships like the Bernie Scholarship Awards Program (BSAP), contributed in a big way to her success.
Her mother remarried when Chevonne was 12 and she eventually moved to Wheaton in Montgomery County where she enrolled at Albert Einstein High School. Her distributed family now includes 11 siblings—eight in Maryland and three in South Florida.
Ms. Mansfield was always willing to challenge herself in school. She had taken two honors courses in middle school in New York, and at Einstein and later at Watkins Mill HS in Gaithersburg, completed a number of Advanced Placement (AP) courses, including Spanish her favorite subject. Her combined HS GPA was 3.4, unweighted, with a weighted average of over 4.0.
She hoped to go back to New York for college—still considering it as “home”—and was accepted and awarded a partial scholarship by St. John’s University (SJU) in 2000. Even with that aid, she still needed supplementary financial help to afford St. John’s where yearly tuition was over $20,000, even 16 years ago. In this early Internet era, getting information about scholarships was much harder to find than it is now. But a helpful guidance counselor at Watkins Mill tipped her off about the BSAP. Application processes were also paper-intensive, but Chevonne overcame these difficulties and eventually became a three-time Bernie Scholarship awardee. In addition, she received Pell grants and an NAACP scholarship and participated in a work-study program. The bottom line—and it’s impressive—is that Ms. Mansfield was able to get both her Bachelor’s and Master’s degrees without incurring a single cent of student loan debt.
Building on skills and credits earned in her HS Spanish AP course, Chevonne began as a Spanish major at St. John’s with the goal of becoming an interpreter at the United Nations. But she soon realized that working as an interpreter might not be her calling. One of her work-study assignments was in the SJU Athletic Department where she was introduced to the field of college sports management and displayed a natural affinity for it, leading to her eventual career field choice. She spent a semester abroad at the University of Leicester in the U.K. in a program dedicated to International Sports Management. While there, she helped organize, develop and implement a co-ed intramural basketball league.
Chevonne graduated from SJU in 2004 with a B.S. in Communications. She looked at a number of job possibilities—turning down an offer for an entry level position at a major TV network—but couldn’t find the right fit and instead took a Graduate Assistantship in the Athletic Department at the University of Maryland Eastern Shore (UMES) where she earned an M.S. in Criminal Justice in 2007, compiling a 3.9 GPA with just one B in three years.
Her Master’s degree in hand, Ms. Mansfield embarked on a series of increasingly more responsible jobs in collegiate sports information. From 2007 to 2010, she served as Assistant Sports Information Director (SID) at Howard University. From there she moved south to Birmingham, Alabama, her frequent childhood moves making the adjustment a bit easier. She worked as Assistant Director of Communications for the Southwestern Athletic Conference (SWAC) until 2011 when she landed the position of Assistant Director for Media Relations for the Southeastern Conference (SEC), one of the most successful and renowned conferences in the NCAA.
Her work at the SEC brought her attention from the founders of the newly formed American Athletic Conference, headquartered in Providence, Rhode Island, where she was appointed Director of Communications. The conference includes teams covering a broad geographic span of the country, from the U.S. Naval Academy and Temple University in the northeast, to Tulane University and the University of Houston in the south. One of its prominent members is the University of Connecticut Huskies whose women’s basketball team just established a new record with its 93rd consecutive victory.
This geographic dispersion of conference members presents unique circumstances in conveying a unified message to the media and the local communities. Chevonne has two assistants as direct reports. Her team is responsible for outreach PR to the media and conference communities and vendor management, and also is the contact for Women’s Basketball, Men’s Soccer, and Golf. In addition to her demanding job, she somehow found the “spare time” to teach a course in Sports Events and Facilities at Johnson and Wales University.
As her career has progressed, Ms. Mansfield has received a number of significant awards and distinctions, including:
§ Graduating from the NCAA Leadership Institute (one of 10 women and 22 overall);
§ Receiving a Rising Star Award from the College Sports Information Directors of America (CoSIDA);
§ Serving as a member of the Boards of Directors for CoSIDA and the Association for Women’s Sports Media;
§ Facilitating the NCAA Student Athlete Leadership Forum;
§ Giving the keynote speech at the 2016 BSAP awards celebration; and
§ Serving as a panelist or moderator a host of national conferences or conventions, including the CoSIDA and AWSM conventions and the Sports Industry Networking and Career Conference.
One of Chevonne’s favorite quotes is from golf champion Jack Nicklaus: “Sometimes the biggest problem is in your head. You’ve got to believe.” That pretty much sums up the philosophy that has guided her life since childhood. Rather than complain about frequent moves and other distractions, she confronted and conquered all these challenges, and has already accomplished much both in education and in her career.
But stay tuned! We’ve probably just seen the tip of the iceberg as far as her achievements go. Ms. Mansfield is really a model for all future BSAP awardees to follow—someone who parlayed her talents, motivation, and drive first into a highly successful academic foundation and then into a rewarding career.
Gene Ford, Sr., a long-time donor and supporter of The Bernie Scholarship Awards Program (BSAP), has made a $100,000 bequest to The Bernie Scholarship Awards Program. Mr. Ford’s company Mid-City produced thousands of housing units throughout the Washington-Baltimore region that served many low-income residents. He recognized that people were not poor by choice and that housing in itself would not substantially change their lives. As a result, he led the way in adding housing services in Mid-City Developments and the Community Preservation Development Corporation, a non-profit that he formed.
Realizing his sincere commitment to changing the lives of low-income people, The Bernie Scholarship Awards Program honored Mr. Ford with our Community Service Award in 2001. At the awards ceremony he listened to the inspiring stories of those receiving scholarships and recognized that education of these scholars was breaking the cycle of poverty. He became a benefactor of the BSAP until his death and now even beyond.
The school year at UMBC has been great so far! I made plenty of friends within the STEM field in the Center for Women in Technology Living Learning Community in my building. I have been very studious and dedicated toward my success at this school, since this campus focuses primarily on academics, as opposed to having a focus on parties and social events.
I still have been able to make time for some social activities, including getting more involved with the Jewish youth organization on campus, Hillel. I began an internship with Hillel this month, where I help plan social events that unite the Jewish community with other organizations on campus. I am really enjoying my involvement with Hillel so far!
I have also joined a research study on campus that involves studying brain waves and their connection to different parts of the body to perform different functions. I am very excited to begin my work with this research program on Thursday, as I feel it will help me figure out if I still want to pursue biomedical engineering.
Delphina Amon-Kotey 2017 Awardee
I wanted to check in and say thank you for granting me this scholarship. It helped my dad and I be able to pay for this semester without taking out too many loans. The semester is going well. I plan on applying again for the next awards.